The War on Women.

I'll give fair warning.. I may not be able to write this without a many varied curse words, so those of you who may be offended by such words should probably leave now.

  I've been reading article after article lately about this "war" on birth control, abortion, women. Today just about topped it off for me. I saw a picture, and I will include it in this entry, of the witnesses testifying on the birth control benefit right now on Capitol Hill (instigated by Repuke-acans). They are all MEN. No, you read that correctly. They are all men. To quote the article, " The five-person, all-male panel consists of a Roman Catholic Bishop, a Lutheran Reverend, a rabbi and two professors." Ummm..? *facepalm* So, when did Christian MEN become experts on women's rights/birth control/abortion? Have any of these men ever been pregnant? Experience the loss of a child? Experienced having to give birth? Experienced giving birth to a child with disabilities and/or deformities? Experienced raising that child mostly by themselves (as most women do)? Breastfed? Bottle fed, even? Do any of these men even have kids (seeing as the clergy usually does NOT allow their priests, preachers, etc to reproduce)? I am at an all time loss for words about this. Repukes have waged this absolute WAR on women, in the name of Christianity and "traditional family values". Want to know what the scariest part is? PEOPLE ARE BUYING THEIR BULLSHIT, INCLUDING SOME WOMEN. That. Is. Terrifying. WHY would you buy into this crap? WHY do you want people controlling your uterus/ovaries/vagina? If you are so "holy" maybe you should take a look at your Bible again. If "God" did indeed make you, then obviously he wanted you to make decisions for your own body. He wouldn't have made each individual person with FREE WILL, just so they could be make into slaves. WHAT is WRONG with YOU, that you BELIEVE this NONSENSE? I am mind blown.


I just can't understand. What makes it worse for me is knowing what my children could face in the future. Some states are adopting this 'no abortion, no Plan B' bill.. no matter if you've been raped (by a family member or others), severe deformities, life or death for mother and child. I understand wanting to limit it for those people who seem to believe abortion is contraception, I totally get that. BUT, in MOST cases abortion is NOT used for contraception. In most cases abortion is used for the situations they have banned (rape, deformities, life/death). Does this make sense to anyone? It sure doesn't to me. If I am raped, I would NOT want to be FORCED to have my rapist's child. If my child were found that they would be born without arms and legs, or without a brain, or without a spinal cord.. I would not force them into this world, into a living hell of a life. If I were ever in a life/death situation with one of my children, I would choose life for them (obviously). But, let's be honest. These situations are hard. They require educated decisions. Absolutely no woman I have ever known who has had an abortion (and I do know a few), has ever made the decision lightly. It was for a damn good reason. This is where most people go deaf because "no reason can be a good reason". Well, I'll tell ya what Mrs/Mr Perfect.. I would LOVE to see what YOU would do in a situation like that. You would become the biggest hypocrite since Santorum (who is so avidly against contraception and abortion, yet HIS WIFE had at least ONE abortion - that we know of). And, yes, he wants to control YOUR lady parts.. as well as those of your DAUGHTERS, SISTERS, MOTHERS, WIVES, BEST FRIENDS, etc. Throw in Mittens, Newt, and Paul.. you have one of the biggest clusterf*cks to ever happen to America. And people really, honestly, truly believe Obama is the bad one. REALLY?!?!?!?! Under his Presidency he's gotten gay marriage passed, free/low cost birth control for women.. and a million other things for minorities in our country. Yet, he's the Anti-Christ. *insert eyeroll* If he's the Anti-Christ, I would hate to see what you people are calling the 'Savior'. Again, I say, I am mind blown.


Why is it so hard to give proper education on sexual matters? Why is everyone so adamant that teens will not have sex? Teens will have sex. Teens have been having sex since the beginning of time. When we give our children/teens only two options of role models, what exactly do we expect of them? 'You can either use this INSANE Religious Right person as your role model OR this whorey alcoholic teen mom.' Oh yea, great parenting. Great role models. Yea.. how about NO. I agree, to a point, that some kids just will not listen and they will make mistakes. However, most kids/teens need guidance. If they do not receive that guidance from their parents and/or good role models in their lives.. they are more likely to look for it in the wrong places. There are more single parents in this day and age than in the past. There are more parents working outside of the home, too busy to truly be there for their children than ever before. (And, no, I'm not knocking parents who work. I'm not blaming them for everything. Most, however, do not give their all to their children when they should. Especially if they had children before they were ready. It does have an affect. You'd be seriously lying to yourself if you said it didn't. - We do have parents of all lifestyles who are sucky, and who rock it out. So, don't send me hate-mail. I'm stating what statistics say.) I digress... purity rings do not work, promises to "God" do not work, church groups/youth groups do not work, abstinence does not work. Stop lying to yourselves and start educating your children/teens. 


Start educating yourselves. Learn the difference between when someone is greasing you and when someone is really truly trying to help. Politicians are notorious for being fantastic "magicians" (in the sense of - don't pay attention to what my left hand is doing, my right is giving you what you want -). NO politician is perfect. Obama is certainly not perfect. He's done things that I don't approve of. Especially when it comes to military matters, which does effect my family and I directly. However, we also have to remember how messed up Backwoods Bush left things. Do most of you have any idea how screwed we were? One of the worst things he did was throw us into a WORLD WAR just for OIL. His children went to Harvard or Yale, and YOUR CHILDREN went to die. Oh yea, let's vote him in again. Let's continue to vote in people like him, so that they can get richer while your children die in foreign places that happen to have things our old rich white men want. I'm at a loss as to how people can so easily and openly criticize Obama's mistakes, yet continue to stand up for Bush (and his cronies). We are free to express ourselves. For now, anyway. Our Congress/Senate is so full of douchecanoes that we can't even make a decision in the proper way anymore. Our forefathers are absolutely tossing and turning in their graves, wondering how this beautiful country, this beautiful idea, has become so corrupt and infected. It breaks my heart that most Americans would rather sit around drinking beer and watching an idiotic football game, than pay attention to the condition of the world in which they are passing on to their children. I ask again : WHY?


And, I say yet again... I am mind blown.

I feel the need to throw this in as well, because I am standing for my/our household in this blog entry : Just because you are a Christian does NOT mean you OWN the rest of the world. Get over yourselves. We have a Pagan/Atheist household, nothing Christian ever enters this house. You have NO power with "alternative" peoples (and there are more of us than you think, btw). Just because you claim to be Christian also does not make you one. It's like saying you're a car just because you're standing in a garage. You lust for power. You are greedy. You are foul. Jesus stood for non of that. If he did exist, he stood for the opposite. You are not only a disgrace to the human race, but a disgrace to your so-called "relationship with god". You make me (and millions of others).. sick. Your 'human-card' has officially been revoked. Take your tail, tuck it, and go the f*ck back home.

All the rewards, and no work.

I simply LOVE these young(er) ladies who want nothing but rewards, for no work. Especially when it comes to babies and pregnancy. I want a baby, but I'd better not get any stretch marks. I want a baby, but I don't want to give up my Prada purses. I want a baby, but I don't want to give up my daily spa treatments. I want, I want, I want, I want, I want..... BUT.

Get the fuck over yourself. You don't want a baby, you want a doll. You want something to dress up and parade around, then when you're tired of it you want someone else to take the responsibility. News flash: Not gonna happen. Being a mother means sacrificing so much that you're small little minds can't even comprehend. You're favorite clothes will be riddled with stains and you're favorite things will probably get broken. All that time of doing whatever you want, whenever you want.. is now gone. No more being a porn star in every guy's eyes, except your husband. No more waltzing around in 20 inch heels, it's simply not safe. You'll be running after your kid all the time. No more ME, ME, ME, ME, ME. And, if you are still a selfish bitch when you think about having children, I'll offer a nice piece of advice that WILL help in many ways : DON'T HAVE CHILDREN. Save them years of therapy, and WAIT until you're READY..

This subject gets under my skin more than others because I've watched people in my own family be this way. I swore I would NEVER be like that. After seeing all of the mistakes made by family and friends, I planned my having children very carefully. I cherish every second. I love my stretch marks. I don't miss any of the sacrifices I made (although, I would have been 80% covered in ink right now). I don't regret a day and you know why? I had children when I was ready. I was prepared. I was educated. I was stable. I love them more than my own life, and that is what you need when raising a child. I will NEVER make the mistakes of my childhood. I will make my own mistakes, everyone does, but thankfully I was able to learn enough through watching others that my children will get a better shake. It makes me feel awesome to know that I've broken the cycle of abuse (verbal and otherwise) rampant in my family. It will exist no more. I'd rather DIE than my children ever feel unwanted or that they are pieces of trash because they made mommy's body look less and less like a supermodel. I'm a role model, I'm comfortable in my own skin, and I could not be happier with my life. If I can pass just those three traits to my children, I'll have fulfilled my life's purpose.

Motherhood is hard, but it's the satisfying kind of hard. Every smile and every hug you get from your children are worth more than any possession or high paying career (or even 'new' boobs). They are priceless. They are perfection. They are THE VERY BEST of you. 

Amazing PSA from the 'Fat Pastor'!

Yes, this is an actual CHRISTIAN pastor. Extremely intelligent. Amazing speech. Couldn't have said this better myself. Love it! -- P.S. Read it, the whole thing.

SouthernLiberalHippieWoman

Happy Holiday from the Fat Pastor: 

A few weeks ago I read a letter to the editor which basically said that anyone who says, “Happy Holidays,” is a P.C., Christmas-hating, God-ridiculing, Communist. Okay, so those weren’t his exact words, but he was clear that he was not a fan of the alliterative greeting.

I really do not understand why people do not like the greeting “Happy Holidays.” I too celebrate Christmas, but if I want to say, “Happy Holidays,” does that make me less Christian? Is saying “Merry Christmas,” really the badge of true Christianity? When someone says “Merry Christmas,” are they then keeping the day holy? 

The only reason most people care about whether or not you say “HH” or “MC” is because Bill O’Reilly made it a big deal. Before he claimed that there is a “war on Christmas,” no one noticed said war. “Seasons Greetings,” and “Happy Holidays” have been accepted greetings for years. There is an old Christmas song, “Happy Holidays,” that no one seemed to mind. The word holiday is a contraction of the words holy day, so in effect, we are saying “Happy Holy Days,” thus keeping Christmas holy. 

Plus, this is simply the time of year when there are a lot of holy days. Beginning with Thanksgiving, then Christmas, and New Years, this is considered the holiday season. I’m not sure why acknowledging a coincidence of our calendar is somehow seen as “attacking Christmas.” Another holy day in this season is Hanukkah. Hanukkah is actually a minor feast day in the Jewish tradition, but has been co-opted for commercial reasons. Much like Christmas was. 

For many centuries Christmas was not a holiday. Two of the four Biblical Gospels give no account of Jesus’ birth, and Matthew and Luke have almost no references back to the birth stories once they are over. The birth stories were not a big deal to early Christians. Christmas only became a holiday as a way to appease pagans in the Roman empire. It is little more than a co-opted winter festival.

 But today it has become an important holiday. Not only in our religion, but more so in our culture and economy. Many retailers depend on the holiday season to survive. And mind you, not everyone buying a bunch of crap at Christmas time is Christian. For the most part, Christmas has become a cultural holiday – driven by economic need much more than religious fervor. 

So when people get angry when someone says “Happy Holidays,” I get angry that they are angry. If you want to keep Christ in Christmas, worry about things more important than the signs and decorations at JC Penney. You think Christmas should be about Christ? Then take up your cross and follow Jesus – not into department stores, but into the prisons, the hospitals, among the poor and the outcast. You get angry when someone doesn’t say “Christmas?” Try getting angry over Christ’s children dying of malnutrition or AIDS. Try getting angry over the fact that the Christmas chocolate you love so much was kept cheap on the back of the working poor. Try getting angry over the fact that Christians are keeping people out of churches with their closed minds and closed doors. 

You want to keep Christ in Christmas? Try putting Christ in your life first. Then we’ll talk about how to greet each other. And if you want a truly Christian greeting, one that makes no mistake whether or not you follow the Christ child, try, “the peace of Christ be with you.” You brood of vipers. You hypocrites. Try getting upset over something that matters. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays

I'm surrounded by idiots. Or.. I used to be.

Christmas is a Christian Holiday (Holy Day)! We are a Christian Nation that allows all people to practice whatever religion they wish. We put it in our Constitution and our Bill of Rights as "Freedom of Religion". Only a Christian Nation would do this. Now, that I've succeeded in pissing some people off, let me conclude by saying: "Take your Happy Holiday greetings and shove 'em up your ass

I just saw a so-called 'friend' (now ex-friend) of mine post this. Obviously it's to piss people off and that's fine. Immature people always feel they need the final word, and I'm sure she feels superior because she all of a sudden grew some ovaries and posted it. Bravo. 

Here's my problem with this "status" (and again, it's a 'copy & paste' status and we all know how much I loathe those).... 

1) We are a Christian Nation that allows all people to practice whatever religion they wish.

A) Ummm, since when are we a Christian Nation? How about Never O'Clock, don't act like an idiot.. do your history. Also, Christianity does not OWN everyone else. We're free to do whatever the hell we want, we don't need them to ALLOW the rest of us to do anything. Get over yourself. Also...look in the mirror.

2) We put it in our Constitution and our Bill of Rights as "Freedom of Religion". Only a Christian Nation would do this.

A) Only a *Christian* nation would promote freedom and choice? Since when? The Inquisition? The Crusades? The war they've been waging on Islam (Muslim) the last ten years? Oh yea... SUPER tolerant these people. 

THIS is WHY I have such a conviction against *most* Christian people. Everyone else makes mistakes, except them. Even when the rest of us are being cordial to them, we're STILL WRONG. Give me a break. I don't think I have to break out the tons of cult leaders who are Christian. How about the child abuse that has and is occuring in CHRISTIAN churches? How about the fact that they murdered and tortured MILLIONS of people just because they wouldn't convert? And, even in our modern day, they are STILL a bunch of a-holes hell bent on having power over everything and everyone. Not this girl. Not this girl's husband and children. I have a brain and a heart. People who pass around statuses like this are ignorant of many things, and I find it especially sad that I know so many of them personally. You don't have to say 'Happy Holidays' to me, I don't give two rats what greeting you use at that time of year. I really don't. I just ask for respect, which you will have in return. My friends and family who are Christian (and also possess intelligence) KNOW that I would never intentionally seek to hurt anyone, therefore when I get on my soapbox they know to either overlook me and/or have an intelligent discussion with me. It's the ignorant Christians that chap me (or ignorant people in GENERAL). They are also the ones who are racist, anti-choice, tyranical, anti-gay/lesbian/transgender, etc. I simply cannot be friends with people like this. It goes against everything I believe in. I will ALWAYS stand up for what I believe and what is right... no matter if I'm standing alone or not. 

Movie reviews.

This particular post is reserved for movie reviews. There are some I've seen, some I haven't. I usually have to wait longer than usual to see most movies, seeing as we live in Europe. Alright. Let's get this ball a-rollin'!

- Thor: Fantastic! My husband didn't enjoy it much, he thought there were too many 'special effects'. I, however, really dug it.

- Green Lantern: (Haven't seen it yet, I'll come back and edit when I have.)

- Monsters: I was just NOT feeling this movie. It didn't even get me on suspense. Meh. I can use one sentence to describe this one: Two octopuses have sex. Yep.

- Battle Los Angeles: I, also, was not feeling this movie much. I'm not sure why but I think it has to do with the fact that alien-take-over has been done to DEATH. It was like I was watching nothing but two hours of explosions. Eh.

- Captain America: (Looks awesome, but I haven't seen it yet, either.)

- Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Pt 1: AMAZING! Of course, I am biased because I have all of the books, have read them a billion times and I'm a HUGE HUGE fan. I do, however, think they could have included more information. They left so many things out, that would have explained certain things. Needless to say, I had to explain everything to my husband after we watched the movie.. and he was all.. "Ohhhhhhhhh!".. haha

- Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Pt 2: (Only a few more days!!!!!!! LOL)

- Batman/The Dark Knight Rises: (This. Movie. Will. Rock.)

- Iron Man/ Iron Man 2: Really dug these movies! I thought they were nicely done, and Mr. Downey does a great job.

- Sherlock Holmes: Again, Mr. Downey was perfect for this part, imo. LOVED this movie and I absolutely cannot wait for the second one.


For now, that's about it. As I said before, I'll come back and list more movies, with reviews. Stay tuned!

Big heart.

I'd love to take away all of the pain, in all of the world, and it kills me that I can't.


Child abuse/neglect.
This war on women and children.
War.
Sexual trafficking/slavery.
Animal abuse/neglect.
Homeless adults/children/families.
World hunger.

I could list things for days.I try to donate at least something to each cause (small amounts of money, time, etc.) but is anything ever enough? There are still children being abused. There are still millions of children being neglected and abandoned. There is still this global war on women. Everything I despise still happens no matter how much we all try. It makes me feel pretty helpless. I can't be the only one who has such a big heart, that I feel the need to change the world. Seeing all of the hate for our fellow man just makes it worse. We see a family getting kicked out of their home and we think.."They must deserve it." I am almost ashamed to call myself human these days. We need a wake-up call. Unite and find peace. Through peace we can finally start to make differences in these horrendous issues. We need a revolution.

There will be sighs.

WARNING: This WILL most certainly contain a beautiful tapestry of profanity, or at least, a small amount.


*SIGH*

The beginnings of 'The Pissing Contest 2011' got it's start the other day. During a conversation I was having on children. First of all, let me explain what a 'pissing contest' is for those of you who may not know. It's basically the same as dudes comparing penises and saying.."HEY! MINE'S BIGGER! -other dude - "NU-UH, MINE IS!".. except 'pissing contest' is a more general term. In this particular situation, it's a pissing contest between women, and who has a more challenging life: civilians or military.

I know, I know, I KNOW. I've done this blog before. Or, at least, it seems like I have. Actually, it seems more like I've tried to explain the challenges we military families must go through to have a semi-normal life, whereas, 'civilian' families have to work hard, too..BUT they don't have to worry about deployments, raising their children mostly alone or their spouses DYING. Now, don't get me wrong, please. I'm not discounting dangerous civilian jobs. There are plenty of them. Police Officers and Fire Fighters are just a couple of good examples. I relate so much to those families, because I know what it's like to wonder if you're husband will come home alive. But, if you're spouse has a relatively normal job, I'm wondering how you think it's justifiable that you and I have the same life. *SIGH* Say whaaa? I'm not going to go into what a soldier does, because I'm sure everyone already knows. Those of you who do not know, should be ashamed of yourself. Now, if we compare your spouse working say.. 12 hour days to my husband working say.. 72 hour days. I'm not math magician, but I'm thinking 72 is greater than 12. Also, my husband can get called away at ANY GIVEN MOMENT. He can be gone for days, weeks, months and/or years. Your spouse goes to work, comes home. He can sleep in his own bed at night, have three delicious hearty meals a day and chose to ignore you and his children when he gets home in the evening/night. A soldier will literally give his life for such small pleasures. When my husband and I found we were expecting our daughter (FINALLY), we were beyond happy. We were so beyond happy that happy couldn't even touch us. Blissful may be a more accurate description. Six months in, he got deployed. Since all of you 'civilian' ladies need reminding on what deployed means: he was sent to a WAR. Bombs, guns, bullets, death, bravery. You know, the whole nine. Not sure, and don't quote me, but I've never heard of your man having to shoot at people to stay alive. I digress. He got deployed and there was a chance he may not be able to get back in time for the birth of our child. Yes, that was a REAL issue. Fast forward to my due date... my husband did make it home. I gave birth to our amazing little girl, a whole day before he had to go back to 'the sandbox'. Yes, he had to walk away and leave me and our newborn daughter in the hospital.. not knowing how we were even going to get back to the post, to our apartment. Correct me if I'm wrong but, your man brought you and your child home from the hospital and actually got to stay. I was on my own, with a newborn, for almost four months. NOT by choice of my own or my husband's, keep that in mind. He considered going AWOL because he did not want to leave us, but I wouldn't let him do that. I knew I was strong enough to get through it. And I know women who have done what I have done, I greatly appreciate you ladies (military and non). Here's where I give yet another sigh. *SIGH* This lady had the ovaries to tell me she understood where I was coming from because she had to deal with her newborn alone, too. "But, your husband isn't in the military. He works a normal job. He was still home, right?", I said. "Yea. BUT, he was working 12 hours a day!! So I was all alone.", was her reply. Really? REALLY?!?!?! That's what you're going to come back at me with? My husband was stressed out so totally and completely in a WAR-ZONE, 10,000 miles way from us 24 hours a day for almost four months.. and you want to compare that with 12 hours a day?!?! COME. ON. I changed diapers, fed her every 2 hours, burped, rocked, bathed, took her to checkups, etc... ALL ALONE. ALONE. Do you get what ALONE means? I did all of this alone. Completely. No help, no friends ( I didn't know anyone, seeing as we had just moved here.), no support system because we are in a foreign country. I did it all alone. You had family, friends, your husband, etc. How is that considered alone? There were times I thought I would go insane from all of the stress. I had never had so much stress in my life, but I tried very hard to enjoy our daughter because she IS our miracle. Mostly, because I am a very strong woman, I enjoyed it. However, there were a couple of times all I could do was cry and feel overwhelmed. Which is exactly the normal response. I'm not saying any of this for a pat on the back, or a medal, or even any recognition. I just want YOU to get over yourself and understand that you do NOT understand my life. You do not understand the military world. You don't get it. You never will.

And finally, on to what this whole blog is for... I'd like to tell you that I will not have this pissing contest with you anymore. I refuse. I know how much more challenging my life is than yours. We chose this life and we take responsibility for that, however, I will not let you belittle my strength by saying you KNOW what I have to put up with. By comparing your easy life to my hard one. Actually, I don't really know if it's easy for you or not, but it fucking looks like it. In all honesty, my life is relatively easy. I have an amazing husband, a wonderful daughter, a nice apartment, nice vehicles, a nice bank account, I'm emotionally stable. I am blessed beyond words. I really am. I also have to deal with the military. My husband has to deal with the military, way more than I do. That's one of the many reasons why that man is my personal hero. He can make his job look easy when I know it's not. He has to deal with leaving us, just as much as we have to deal with him leaving. He takes the brunt force of all of this bullshit.. for us. For YOU. For your family. For the whole United States. So, how about instead of having a pissing contest, you just be nice? I get that I'm not always as nice as I should be, and I'm not even saying I get a pass because the military stresses me the fuck out, but when I'm wrong, I appologize. I'll appologize now for any bitchy moments I may have in the near future. It's a consequence of sacrificing, it makes people bitchy. True story.