I have this problem. It's a pretty major one and it's been bugging me for awhile. I've touched on it in previous blogs, but this time, I'm ready to get down and dirty. With my words, that is. Not physically, because honestly, that would be a little weird. HA!
The problem is... there is this new phenomena of men feeling oh-so threatened because *allegedly* girls (toddlers, children and up) are being taught to be "anti-men". Now. Let me explain. Supposedly us ladies (as moms) are teaching our daughters to be anti-men, and this is direct consequence of us teaching them to be strong intelligent women. Women (girls) who are not afraid to stand up and fight for a fair shake in this day and age. Women (girls) who should be PROUD of who we are (this includes weight, nostril size, boob size, intelligence, etc) and stop catering to a lesser species (men). Before I go any farther I'd like to say that I love my husband. He is one of those RARE men who actually has a nice healthy respect for women, myself and our daughter included (first and foremost), of course. So when I put down men, he is not included. He has sense. He is intelligent. He recognizes the universal balance. So again, I say, he is excluded from this rant. If I ever do a rant about leaving the toilet seat up.. then we'll see. ;)
Back to my thoughts.
I think this all boils down to some men not being prepared to relinquish control over women (as we are seeing with the 'war' on contraceptives and abortion). They are afraid of being second best. Really though, let's be honest. Men have always been second best. I don't know many men who can do everything a woman can do, and not bitch and whine all day about it. I don't know ANY men who can go through childbirth kid after kid, and live to tell the tale. Anyone? I'm open to personal accounts here. Before I write a year long blog, I'll come to my point. Which is : Just because I teach my daughter she should be a strong person, that doesn't mean she can't get married someday. I am a very strong intelligent woman, a bit of a feminist, and yet I am married to a wonderful man. We have a wonderful relationship. I even took his last name. I have a college degree (albeit a small one, but still) and yet I chose to be a stay-at-home-mom. Why? Because I love my husband and I love my daughter. If I wanted to go work for some internet company in the marketing department and make bank, I could. However, I would rather give our daughter the best headstart possible. In this day and age of failed relationships, baby mamas/daddies, disrespect for women and children and the family unit essentially being destroyed... I value the title of wife and I value the title of mother. This also harkens back to a few thoughts I had about the war on stay-at-home-moms, as well. I've heard it said that you can't be a feminist and be a SAHM. Really? Why not? I am. I do it quite well. You've never been to my house. You don't exactly know who calls the shots, do you? I can give you a hint. =)
I digress... lol
I recently spied an article about these anti-choice people attacking the Girl Scouts because "they are teaching young girls/women to be pro-abortion and anti-men". Oh, and let's not forget the "pro-homosexuality" they are getting taught as well. Well gee-golly-gosh, I just was not aware of this. We must stop it. (End sarcasm.) You are either a compassionate person with an open mind, who just happens to view homosexuality as NORMAL (because it IS) or you are not. 65% of the world is in that latter category. I happen to be in the first category. I will teach our daughter that it is completely normal. BECAUSE IT IS. If you happen to be a bigot, well then, you can teach your children hate and close-mindedness. But don't bring it to my house. Don't bring it to my family. Don't bring it to me and you had better definitely never bring it to my daughter. If I do my 'job' correctly as a mother... if anyone ever belittles a gay person (or in racial slur cases, bullying because of weight, etc) in front of my child, she will be tearing you a new one before you can take a second glance. Also, if I do my job correctly as a mother, our daughter will never fall for those idiotic 'lines' men seem to think work so well. I just can't see a parent of a child, especially a daughter, not wanting her to be able to stand up for what she believes in. Even if she is standing alone. Sadly, this also leads me back around to Christianity. (Yes, again.) Women are treated so poorly in that faith. It makes my soul hurt. Why do these women put up with such nonsense? There are feminists in religion, but they are mostly in Pagan religions and/or Atheists and/or Agnostics. Christianity has absolutely tried to destoy the universal balance, and that is what makes me the most angry with their religion. Man and woman exist on equal terms. One cannot live without the other. Woman creates man. However, she cannot do this without the help of man. So therefore, there is yin, there is yang. One gender, race, creed, etc should NEVER be allowed to have more power than the other. So when men start getting all pissy-faced because women are teaching their daughters that they have CHOICES in life, excuse me if I go and throw up with rage. Or rather, blow up. It's ridiculous that in today's society women are still considered second class. We are coming up though, we are fighting. Essentially we are *almost* like the poor honorable slaves of past generations. We are a-comin' and you had better get ready. There was a time when everything was equal. I have faith that it will come again. If not in my lifetime or in my daughter's lifetime.. I will make sure that she understands how much power she wields.
I'm sure I'll hear how much of a hypocrite I am, after this is published. I don't see it as hypocrisy. I see it as living in balance.
The problem is... there is this new phenomena of men feeling oh-so threatened because *allegedly* girls (toddlers, children and up) are being taught to be "anti-men". Now. Let me explain. Supposedly us ladies (as moms) are teaching our daughters to be anti-men, and this is direct consequence of us teaching them to be strong intelligent women. Women (girls) who are not afraid to stand up and fight for a fair shake in this day and age. Women (girls) who should be PROUD of who we are (this includes weight, nostril size, boob size, intelligence, etc) and stop catering to a lesser species (men). Before I go any farther I'd like to say that I love my husband. He is one of those RARE men who actually has a nice healthy respect for women, myself and our daughter included (first and foremost), of course. So when I put down men, he is not included. He has sense. He is intelligent. He recognizes the universal balance. So again, I say, he is excluded from this rant. If I ever do a rant about leaving the toilet seat up.. then we'll see. ;)
Back to my thoughts.
I think this all boils down to some men not being prepared to relinquish control over women (as we are seeing with the 'war' on contraceptives and abortion). They are afraid of being second best. Really though, let's be honest. Men have always been second best. I don't know many men who can do everything a woman can do, and not bitch and whine all day about it. I don't know ANY men who can go through childbirth kid after kid, and live to tell the tale. Anyone? I'm open to personal accounts here. Before I write a year long blog, I'll come to my point. Which is : Just because I teach my daughter she should be a strong person, that doesn't mean she can't get married someday. I am a very strong intelligent woman, a bit of a feminist, and yet I am married to a wonderful man. We have a wonderful relationship. I even took his last name. I have a college degree (albeit a small one, but still) and yet I chose to be a stay-at-home-mom. Why? Because I love my husband and I love my daughter. If I wanted to go work for some internet company in the marketing department and make bank, I could. However, I would rather give our daughter the best headstart possible. In this day and age of failed relationships, baby mamas/daddies, disrespect for women and children and the family unit essentially being destroyed... I value the title of wife and I value the title of mother. This also harkens back to a few thoughts I had about the war on stay-at-home-moms, as well. I've heard it said that you can't be a feminist and be a SAHM. Really? Why not? I am. I do it quite well. You've never been to my house. You don't exactly know who calls the shots, do you? I can give you a hint. =)
I digress... lol
I recently spied an article about these anti-choice people attacking the Girl Scouts because "they are teaching young girls/women to be pro-abortion and anti-men". Oh, and let's not forget the "pro-homosexuality" they are getting taught as well. Well gee-golly-gosh, I just was not aware of this. We must stop it. (End sarcasm.) You are either a compassionate person with an open mind, who just happens to view homosexuality as NORMAL (because it IS) or you are not. 65% of the world is in that latter category. I happen to be in the first category. I will teach our daughter that it is completely normal. BECAUSE IT IS. If you happen to be a bigot, well then, you can teach your children hate and close-mindedness. But don't bring it to my house. Don't bring it to my family. Don't bring it to me and you had better definitely never bring it to my daughter. If I do my 'job' correctly as a mother... if anyone ever belittles a gay person (or in racial slur cases, bullying because of weight, etc) in front of my child, she will be tearing you a new one before you can take a second glance. Also, if I do my job correctly as a mother, our daughter will never fall for those idiotic 'lines' men seem to think work so well. I just can't see a parent of a child, especially a daughter, not wanting her to be able to stand up for what she believes in. Even if she is standing alone. Sadly, this also leads me back around to Christianity. (Yes, again.) Women are treated so poorly in that faith. It makes my soul hurt. Why do these women put up with such nonsense? There are feminists in religion, but they are mostly in Pagan religions and/or Atheists and/or Agnostics. Christianity has absolutely tried to destoy the universal balance, and that is what makes me the most angry with their religion. Man and woman exist on equal terms. One cannot live without the other. Woman creates man. However, she cannot do this without the help of man. So therefore, there is yin, there is yang. One gender, race, creed, etc should NEVER be allowed to have more power than the other. So when men start getting all pissy-faced because women are teaching their daughters that they have CHOICES in life, excuse me if I go and throw up with rage. Or rather, blow up. It's ridiculous that in today's society women are still considered second class. We are coming up though, we are fighting. Essentially we are *almost* like the poor honorable slaves of past generations. We are a-comin' and you had better get ready. There was a time when everything was equal. I have faith that it will come again. If not in my lifetime or in my daughter's lifetime.. I will make sure that she understands how much power she wields.
I'm sure I'll hear how much of a hypocrite I am, after this is published. I don't see it as hypocrisy. I see it as living in balance.
